Three couples reported similar events, but saw their sexual difficulties as having begun early in their relationships, prior to midlife events, and thus are not discussed. This perspective suggests gender is a social construct that people perform and reify in the course of their social interactions and allows us to situate women's narratives within the context of their sexual identities and in relation to the gender of their partners. Yet when she wished to engage in different sexualized acts designed to avoid pain, her wife was less interested. Physical health problems have required us to do [sex] differently, and weight has required us to do things differently… But with our size we still [have sex]—where there's a will, there's a way…There's still will or willingness, and so there're still ways. We know now through responses that this is not the case. Now I am older, it seems less funny. We thus homed in on relevant passages of transcripts and analyzed how interviewees framed and made meaning from their experiences. I am the woman that wants to learn more about why stories are published on the idea that men are the sex-starved species. Dumped him in about 24 hours and moved in with the new guy. So, when do you take a look at what your needs are and realize that they aren't met? Additional recruitment efforts included advertisements in local newspapers and flyers dispersed throughout various neighborhoods. Much of the ignorance about sex and the older person stems from resistance to thinking about old people at all, least of all their yucky bodies. In an effort to answer some of these questions, we tracked down six amazing women between the ages of 62 and 79 who were willing to talk frankly about their sexuality and how it's changed over time. Among the straight women, one identified as Asian, two as Black, and 13 as White. I'm beginning to think that I will never find a partner whose sex drive is equal to mine. Choosing the right partner is critical I chose well. According to new research , many married women are seeking affairs for romance and sexual satisfaction without any plans of divorcing their partner.